Is beating a solution ?

Dear Parents

If a child does any mistake like lies,watches excess TV, does not complete his homework or shows any sort of misbehavior, what will you do as a parent?

As expected, you will first try to politely explain by delivering a long lecture on what is good and bad, how he must behave and how he must not which the child may listen very carefully but once you complete, no improvement can be seen.
If he repeats, this time you will get angry and scold which may show some improvement in behavior for some time. If such mischief continues, you will either beat or give punishment.

So, the steps most of the parents follow are : Explaining -> Scolding -> Punishing

Does the child improve ?
- NO

Is there any long term improvement ?
- NO

Some parents will still repeat this process again and again while others will leave everything to destiny.
In both the cases - ' NO POSITIVE OUTCOMES'.

This process is categorized under *Traditional Parenting* which no longer helps.


Let us improvise our traditional parents with this evolving era. God has given you a beautiful gift in the form of a child because he had faith on you to take care, not to leave his future on him, on destiny.

A child psychology works under 4 steps :
INCIDENT - > EMOTION - > BELIEF - > BEHAVIOR

Beating is an incident to change behavior without knowing the fact that beating for every small mischief will make you (parents) absent from the emotional periphery of the child and something, which is out of emotional periphery can never bring a change, no matter what!

An example to make it more clear -
If you, as parents, want a mango from mango tree and are not able to climb, you'll hit the stone to get it down. Now we have two probabilities of getting it - Either we will directly hit the mango or the stem to which mango is attached. You may get the mango in both the cases but if the mango is directly hit by the stone, you will ruin the mango. You actually have to target the stem.
Similarly,
Do not try to cut the behavior by beating otherwise the child will find different ways of fulfilling what he want to do because beating has decreased your emotional attachment and hence is of no use. Besides, connect emotionally and amend the belief which will automatically result into a gradual change in behavior.

The application of Traditional Parenting will result into a stubborn child and ruin his behavior.
The child needs you not your sticks.